BIG THINGS ARE HAPPENING IN OUR PLUS SIZE COMMUNITY

Hello awesome guys and gals,

I thought today I should focus on some of the positive things I have seen or experienced with the Plus Size movement.

We are slowly being and surely being accepted.

Thanks to social media, we have blogs, fan pages, tweeters and tweets. We also have a thing called blog radio which I have come across a few radio broadcasts. One show in particular I find that they have some decent content, and just some good professional people in all sorts of plus size related businesses is the following:

http://www.lifesizeradio.net/

We have also found ways to find one another and relate with each other even if it is on a small level. Back in 2007 I decided I wanted to find what was out there in North America for the BBWs/SSBBWs and FAs. I got to experience a BBW Bash. For those of you who don't know what that is it's a convention full of plus size people and their admirers. The bash I attended is the largest one I know of it's kind. Over a 1000 people attend over a weeks period, at the Famous Las Vegas Bash. This happens annually. These bashes are a great way for people of a comman interest and group to get together and experience life like you probably never have before as a heavy person. Pure acceptance of size, and preference it truly is a beautiful thing. I highly recommend if you are a shy single plus size girl, or a fella who likes who likes the big girls, to attend one of these BBW Bashes or Plus Size Conventions at least once. I promise you it can change your life they way you ultimately accept yourself. It will be great for your confidence, and you will experience you are not alone.

There I learned they actually have these bashes all over the U.S. and some in Canada. They also have some great BBW/Plus Size Friendly night clubs through out the U.S.. These clubs usually sponsor a night at a bash or convention, where there is a DJ rockin some tunes, and everyone is feeling free and confident to be themselves. Plus size euphoria.

What else you ask?

People are really putting themselves out there for the community in great ways.

We now have REAL Plus Size female entertainers that can hold there own and don't shoot down being overweight as a horrible thing, they promote plus size acceptance and self acceptance.

Some of these heroic queens are:

Beth Ditto

The Glamazons

Monique

There are even some Men in this world who are really trying to advocate the acceptance and beauty of plus size women in the way they see it:

Leanord Nemoy - yes Spock! - he takes pictures of us, and does radio talk shows in support of us

Mika - sings about us

Les Toil - draws us

Even this gentleman, I predict in the next 5-10 years, his companies may very well become household name for anyone who is plus size or an admirer of the plus size,



Zik the Producer and Publisher of BODacious well Everything! - I really think he is the new Hugh Hefner of the plus size adult world, but this fella is more then about the adult industry, I guarantee he really is a true advocate of the Plus Size Acceptance Movement. From BBW bashes, Club Nights and Tasteful Sensual Photography and of course his other naughty projects this guys does it all for us. Heck he has also started a movement to get Bodacious in the dictionary - so click here and sign the petition.

http://whatsyournumber.org

So to all my friends in Curvyville, as you can see there are some great strides that are being made for us as a whole. These are just a few samples how things are changing. These are exciting times, and I can't wait to see what is going to happen next. Yes! The Plus Size Movement is finally moving!

Take care of yourselves!

Missy B

FAT GIRL FEARS

Hey Ladies and Gents...

I was thinking today, what are some of the things that you never really hear a crowd of fat people never really talk about unless it's brought up through someone else who isn't fat.

I thought I would list some of topics, and issue we as the plumperellas and heaftyfellas face on a day to day basis, as we are all to self conscious to bring them up ourselves.

I like to call these "FAT FEARS"



fat friendly seating-for some of us extra heavier guys and gals... the booth could be a hit or miss

first time exposed when we are naked in front of your lover - lights on

feeling as a good "fit" with your partner - during the spicy play time

OH MY FAVORITE - FLYING ON A AIRPLANE - not only what are they gonna say when you check in... but just being comfortable on the plane ride

when somebody asks you to sit on there lap and you have no clue they are an FA

stiletto heels and weak ankles

bathing suit season

keeping up with the your own young ones

name calling in public

bra shopping

doctor visits

family and friend embarrassment issues

for the younger folk - gym class running laps and climbing ropes

size discrimination at the job

somebody parking waaaaaay too close to your car on the driver side

somebody making a remark when they see you carrying a diet cola



Okay I think this is a good few

We have to remember that we are all human... and if you have a fear that you are embarrassed about, the odds are somebody out there has the same one, or a few more to top your list.  We can't ever let our weight stop us from living... never, never, never! Most of the time, I like to think people around us are pretty understanding and nice.  Heck.... sometimes they have no clue, what we are going through as large people and it's right in front of their face.  We forget, maybe they are going through their own thing.  If a fear is in front of you... take a leap of faith and see what happens. And if you end up in an uncomfortable position, remember it's better to get the torture over with and rip the band aid off quickly,  then to rip it off slowly. 

From a fellow human to another, I am sorry and it sucks you gotta go through these things.  The silver lining is that when we face our fears, and find there is a problem, we can try to map out a solution at the end of the day.  The key is not to give up... and be upfront and honest about any situation, but mostly with yourself.  Remember that you weren't the first person to stumble across the problem and won't be the last.  Maybe, just maybe you will become a little braver to approach a situation for the next time.  One of the best things we can do is stand up for our selves and not hide.  This is when we find solutions.

Take care of yourselves!

Missy B

Frumpy Fat Girls - I get mad at you too.

I know I have written about how I don't agree with the general plus size girls who is looking for acceptance when they pose in a pair of booty shorts or some naked upside down pic that is supposed to lure men to talk to them. This giving the stereo type of big girls being easy or desperate < --- no decent self respecting guy is going to want that for a commitment... he'll just see us as short term fun I want to rant about the other plus size girl that pisses me off. Miss Frumpy Frumpy=Dumpy Once again my point is that hiding behind an ugly moo-moo like top, or wearing clothes just because they fit does not help the rise and acceptance of the big girl. How you dress is an expression of how you feel about yourself. Take some time find something that looks good and FITS right. I don't care if you are a size 14 or a size 32 I believe you could look good at any size. Wearing clothes that hide you, or just not caring including not wearing make up or having your hair done just puts you in a stereo type.... in fact it puts all of us in a stereo type. I'm tired of plus size women put in the category of lazy and slobish. So take charge. And if you don't have any fashion sense.... not to worry that's what girlfriends are for. Heck you could even just ask a "put together" fat girl at the clothing store for assistance, and I bet you she'd be tickled pink to help you with a make over. If that does not work... heck you could approach me the author of this blog or I bet any other fat girl on the net who is open to fighting for the plump revolution. We all are fighting the same battle.

And please when I use the word fat, don't be insulted... it is what we are... It is not a bad word at all... It's real. In fact I don't think fat=ugly. To me fat = round, full, soft and voluptuous.

As all my rants go, if you want the plus size community to be accepted, it starts with everyone of us.... including you Miss Frumpy! Stop it because it pisses me off, for me, for our community and even for yourself.

You owe it to yourself and to all others who can relate to you to show your true beauty. I promise when you dress well it gives you more confidence, and just feels good. People also value you more when you take pride in what you look like. Be fat, be proud and show it by dressing the way you want to feel. If you don't feel so beautiful on the inside... fake it till you make it I say... with practice and time you will feel different, I guarantee it.

Take care of yourselves

Missy B ;)