Fat Friendly Up your Holidays!

Today I would like to talk about the holidays and how "weight or fat" fit in.

Everyone has that family member that they come across, a snoopy aunt, a show off sibling, cranky cousin during holiday family gatherings. Prying to know what is going on in your life, asking who you are dating, if you're dating, how much money your making or what fabulous trip you will not be going on this year. Always wanting to start off the conversation talking about their weight and ending up the main bulk of the conversation being about your weight.

Or we come across the holiday meals, yes we need to be real in North America, holidays are always centered around big feasts. Everything from turkey to pie will be ours for the tasting. Hearing many comments of "Should you really be having seconds?" " I have to watch my waste line or I'm going to gain a few pounds" " I feel so guilty, I shouldn't of had that dessert" BLAH BLAH BLAH...


Let's not forget the diet industry, this has to be a big time of year for them. New Years resolution time to go on a diet, or by that gym membership. Television is fat persons friend around this time of year, that infomercial has the solution to change your life for only 4 easy payments of $39.99 but if you act now, they will make the first payment for you, so it's only 3 easy payments of $39.99!

My suggestion... Deflect the self esteem attacking army by saying, " sorry we aren't talking about that, it's the holidays it's time to have fun and be around the ones you love". We don't realize how much the conversations that we have can effect and influence other peoples thoughts and actions around us. Bet you there are children at some of these holiday parties that you are attending. What kind of message is that sending to them? What are we teaching these young ones? If you have a child who is not of perfect weight - it's going to effect their self esteem. Another child may learn it's OK to judge people because how the adults in the family act is perfectly normal. I can't even tell you how horrible our own self talk is and destructive to not only us, but like a sniper, very destructive to the esteem of others who listen.

I know we are adults, and as adults we take on different responsibilities. Sometimes we have to ask ourselves if it's toxic for our kids to hear and deal with for their own self esteem and behavior, shouldn't it be for ourselves too?

Just remember when we start standing up for ourselves, we earn respect for ourselves and maybe for someone else too.

Here's hoping your holiday filled with pleasant moments.

Missy B