I am always amazed at people who have the balls to not only assume they know how I got to be the size I am, but they always have this magic formula to solve my weight "problem". I have been told and shown magic beans that I can take, great tasting saw dusty like shakes... or my particular favorite and most popular - DIET and EXERCISE.
Wow! Why didn't I think of that? I didn't know it was that easy! Just that simple, yeah! Well I hope I speak for the lot of big folks and just for all you know it alls out there just FU@*K @FF! Or no! Continue reading and be educated. Now that I got that out of the way...
I don't think you understand, not all fat people became fat because we eat too much. Not all of us are lazy either! And please don't think being fat has been a choice well received by us. I don't know about the rest of you big gals, but I just wanted to be around 300lbs and have to squeeze my ass uncomfortably in an air plane seat. This is my dream!
I happen to be big due to a hormone issue. I have also gained weight from prescription weight loss pills, that was awesome, my body went into starvation mode and held onto everything! I also have gained weight from antidepressants. I have tried alot of things over the years.
Here's some things I have done to try to lose weight:
- stop eating or just once a day
- my favorite EX LAX
- aerobics seven days a week
- swim seven days a week
- speed walkin
- extreme stair climbing
- sauna
- weight watchers
- hypnosis
- prescription weight loss pills
- over the counter weight loss pills
- fad diet - no carbs
- cabbage soup diet
- registered dietitian diet
- strict 3 day diet
- body cleanse
- I have even gone to an over eater's anonymous meeting
- If I think of anymore I will update it
The only thing I have not tried is a weight loss surgery. Forget that! That is my last and final move. Only if my quality of life is affected by my mobility, then maybe. I have known too many people with bad experiences and most have not lost or kept weight off.
And if someone is big because of food. They probably had a good part of their life living skinny. You lucky ducks! It doesn't matter, if someone falls apart physically it's usually due to depression or other emotional stress and my heart goes out to those people. You previously thinner folks have to face where you are right now and where you have been, that can't be easy. For some of us chunky monkeys, we have no experience of how being skinny should feel because we never have been.
If you have to make your life harder in other areas to try to improve one area, and if your efforts probably won't work, why the heck are you torturing yourself? That is really hard on your emotions and self esteem. Society dictates to us which I'm so sick of because there is enough of us fatties to out way the skinny population. Why is this still acceptable? I am not saying you can't change, change is great. But be real about it, and love and accept yourself who you are now. Be ok with yourself before you try doing these changes because all you will do if they don't work out is beat yourself up. Ouch.
I have been extremely overweight since I was four. I am done fighting a battle that seems to be senseless. I have been fighting this battle with tools society has given me, they don't match the symptoms I have. In fact some things I have are incurable. I'm going to have this body all my life. I have made the conscious decision to be the best fat girl I could possibly be. Instead of hating it....I'm celebrating it. That is what this blog is about.
My other comment I would like to make to my plump peeps, if you don't stand up for yourself when people do this to you, it affects all of us. So stand up for yourself! It's good for you, your self esteem and your plus size community. If we have to make one person at a time we are their equal, that is what we have to do. It really does all start with one person. How did women get to vote? Remember?
To all of you know it alls out there, think next time you make a comment about or to someone before you try to solve the issue of that person being overweight. Before you make a comment, look at yourself, what are your issues? Because I would sure love to have the ability to see them, and I would give it back to you. I'd love to solve and fix you. What is it? Stop stereotyping and judging. Our physical being is only part of who we are. In fact our physical bodies is part of our journey and if you have seen some of the things we as a fat community have faced...you might see that we have strength and have faced some obstacles in our lives that not everyone can concur.
I think it is possible to be fat and fabulous. I think I am on my way to getting there, and I hope some of you feel the same way about yourselves.
Be kind to you.
Missy B
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